Happy 2024 my friends :)

I’d like to thank you for supporting me & Your millennial therapist for another year as I enter the third year of running my therapy business.

Check out my 2023 wrap up video here on insta or on Youtube.

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The idea for this newsletter came to me on Christmas day 2023.

I ran straight into my room, sat on my bed, opened my laptop and started typing this down.

Ive realize that - sometimes in life, it doesn’t matter what the objective truth is.

What matters most is who tells the most compelling story.

Like in law, the ideal expectation is the innocent gets justice and the guilty gets punished.

But in real life, it’s about who (which lawyer) tells the most compelling story to a jury and judge.

It’s about the evidence that exists which gets presented in the courtroom.

In relationships, friendships & interactions, it’s about what we do on a daily basis, our behaviors, actions, appearances, presentations.

That is what people based their opinions and judgements on.

Because everything else exists in our inner minds.

Our boundaries, the words we say, the way we treat ourselves is the precedent we set for how we want others to treat us.

We set precedence by showing others how we treat ourselves.

If you don’t have self-love & self belief, your foundation & boundaries will be shaky.

If you have a strong sense of self-love & self belief, you will take no shit from anyone.

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That is why it is imperative we act in a way that aligns with who we are and WHO WE WANT TO BE.

I’ve seen firsthand how tragic & dangerous it is when we don’t live in alignment with who we are, what we want, what we VALUE.

Read about it here.

Clients come to me always asking the same question.

“How do I stay true to who I am & not be rejected?”

The truth is… you don’t.

In this specific context, it is One or the Other.

You stay true to who you are because you will risk rejection.

But isn’t it worth so much more if being your authentic self means losing some that aren’t your true/loyal fans, friends?

The fear of showing who you are is less scary than fear of losing yourself to please others.

Therefore, I want to remind you - TO never lose sight of yourself.

Don’t force yourself to go along with plans when you want to say no.

Don’t force yourself to do something if it doesn’t feel right.

Don’t force yourself to give up when you want to continue.

Don’t force yourself to say Yes just to avoid conflict and difficult conversations.

Don’t enable people when they mistreat you, call them out because nothing is worse than not trying.

I’ve lived it, doing things when my insides are screaming at me, telling me it doesn’t feel right.

I’ve said yes or no to things just to avoid conflict & difficult conversations.

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Let me tell you something…

All that did, was made my hate myself even more.

It made me feel disgust, anger, resentment.

It made me feel conflicting emotions.

I found myself asking why I did certain things when I knew I didn’t want to.

But beating yourself up is also NOT a solution.

Watch my reel here on turning pain into wisdom.

I’ve come to accept myself, my mistakes, flaws, experiences for what they are and as learning lessons that will teach me to become a better individual & therapist.

With every hardship, comes the lesson of acceptance and letting go.

View my previous letter on rejection & acceptance here.

So now, I will no longer do things to be at war with myself.

Noone’s ever taught us the importance of self-love, this letter is how I define self-love.

DM me or comment down below to tell me how YOU define self-love and 1 struggle you have with practicing Self-Love in your life :)

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